Careers – March 2013

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You may only get a glimpse
……or a feeling and maybe a hunch
What is it? Your future and your destiny

Many people experience a “moment” when they see or feel their future and perhaps the role they were destined for. Unfortunately, most don’t act on it and the glimpse fades and is forgotten. They get buried by the present day tasks and responsibilities. This happens to many of us in our careers and life.
I had the experience of meeting someone who experienced such a glimpse, and acted on it thanks to her instincts and a good friend. Let’s just call this person Lisa. Lisa was a public health nurse who admits that she became “crusty”. After 27 years at her job, she had grown tired of the routine, but it was a paycheck. She had gone through some defining moments in her life and found herself with some flexibility and most of all, a burning desire to make a change.

It happened one night while visiting a beautiful Inn in the Finger Lakes region. For a fleeting moment Lisa got a glimpse of herself working as the innkeeper. The feeling was so strong that she couldn’t sleep that night.

But the next day came, and oh well, back to life. That is when her good friend who was with her during the sighting encouraged her to talk to the current innkeeper and express her interest. She did, but not without trepidation. She got her thoughts together and talked to the Innkeeper who encouraged her to talk to the General Manager that day. Remember, this is all in the span of maybe 12 hours.

She met with the Assistant and then the General Manager and felt it went great. There seemed to be interest in her and she loved the Inn and the staff. She returned home and to her work, but she heard nothing for sometime and became discouraged.

Her friend, again, pushed her. “You need to call the Inn again today!” She did, and again, a long wait for a response. She began to feel that she was “stalking”. Still – nothing materialized and her friend, again, said, “Don’t let this go – call again.” She did, and this time it worked. She spoke quickly when the person answered her call.  She explained that she wants this opportunity and could offer some information that may be holding them back on hiring her: she could work when needed, but did not expect any guarantees, she did not need benefits because she was covered already, she could stay 24/7 if needed because she was free from encumbrances. 

Now I know not many of us could offer these things up to a hiring manager, but Lisa did because she knew she just needed a foot in the door and had to make it easy for them to hire her. She is now the innkeeper of this beautiful Inn and doing what her heart desired.  Having stayed at this Inn…she is right where she belongs and a wonderful hostess to her guests. Oh, and by the way, when she called the third time the current innkeeper informed her that she was leaving and her timing was great.

She got a glimpse of her future and she didn’t let it go!

This is a story of not only the experience of seeing one’s future, but acting on it in a methodical way. This is where many fall down and don’t achieve their dreams. They see it – experience it – and then let it go. They fail to take action, to commit to changing their life or career, and they toil away unfulfilled in their current job.

So what do you do when you see it, feel it, experience it?

  • First, write it down – immediately. That is a step toward commitment and it takes a glimpse or fleeting thought from the mind and commits it to paper.
  • Keep it in front of you – always. Not buried in some notebook, on your phone or on your computer, but on a piece of paper you cannot escape from seeing daily. Maybe it’s on your refrigerator or on your desk or your bathroom mirror
  • Take one action toward this dream. It might be an email, a phone call or other action to move a bit closer and then do the same everyday or every week so you stay on it. In Lisa’s case, the entire span of time from her glimpse to getting the job of her dreams was a few months (it does not always happen overnight – darn it!).
  • Never, never take no for an answer. If someone feels you are crazy for pursuing this dream, don’t listen to them. If someone tries to hold you back, get away from them and leave them in your dust.  Naysayers have no place in our lives – they just try to hold one back.
  • And when you turn your glimpse into your future to reality, celebrate! You deserve it.

Remember, if you can visualize it you can be it – no matter what others try to tell you.  Get focused. Achieve. Live. And, of course, Dream!

Dan Moran is president & founder of Next-Act, a career management & transition firm located in Colonie. You can reach him at 641.8968 or dmoran@next-act.com or visit www.next-act.com
 

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